A lot of unhappiness and suffering stems from our misperception of the people and world around us. These perceptions tell us the story or stories that can limit us and cause flawed decision making or set us free. A lot of the misperceptions come from false beliefs about ourselves and how we relate to the world. Continue reading “Confirmation Bias – Your Achilles’ Heel?”
We’ve talked about limiting beliefs a couple of times (and how to eliminate a limiting or negative belief in under 20 minutes) on this blog, but we skipped over the nitty-gritty and talked about my experience with a belief elimination method, how I eliminated limiting beliefs and how it affected my life experience and results. (Here is the original post, and here is the two-year follow-up.)
We haven’t discussed what a limiting belief is and how it manifests in your day-to-day life, showing up in the places that you are unhappiest. This can include your money situation, work situation, health situation, relationship situation and the relationship with yourself. It shows up in different places for different people based on their particular beliefs. It usually is much stronger is some areas.
What is a Belief?
A belief is something we hold to be true. Inherently, belief is the absence of doubt. We hold beliefs about everything and our beliefs inform our view of the world and our relationship to other people. Beliefs are self-perpetuating.
We can easily say we live in a world where distractions are the norm. There seems to always be background noise outside and within ourselves. There are so many things competing for our attention, there are things to remember, things to do, deadlines, and then, you have to sustain yourself with food and water and some exercise if you are lucky.
Well, here I am going to give you 5 quick steps towards peace of mind you can take right now.
Are you living your best life? If your answer is an unequivocal yes, that is super awesome and you must write to me and to the folks reading this and share your formula (seriously). You may also know you are in a small minority of people. Most of us know we can be doing better than we are. This could mean a lot of different things to different people but overall it’s the same idea. We could be spending more time with family or friends, taking better care of our health, cultivating our passions, spending more time in service, or anything that we know would improve our quality of life, yet we forgo either taking steps towards it or implementing it into our day-to-day lives. Continue reading “Clarify What You Value Most and Get More of It”
Decision making fatigue is a real thing. The idea is that we have a limited amount of decision-making energy each day, and through the process of making decisions, this energy diminishes. Along with the energy, the quality of our decisions diminish as well. Have you ever been confronted with a simple question like, “What time do you want to have dinner?” and it’s a big ordeal to think of an answer? This is due to decision making fatigue. This is bad news bears for those of us who make life changing decisions each day. The thing is we are all making life changing decisions each day – whether we know it or not. Continue reading “Manage Decision Making Fatigue = Make Better Decisions Faster and Easier”
Good mistakes versus bad mistakes
We are conditioned to believe that mistakes are inherently bad. This conditioning was created in childhood and reinforced throughout our lives. The origins are innocent enough – children are crazy little beasts and as a matter of course they make tons of mistakes. Parents try to manage the madness and want these beasts to stop making messes, hurting their siblings and ultimately just want them to remain safe.
The thing is that as new beings on the planet, children intuit that mistakes are how they learn and grow. Mistakes are how we begin to test our impact on the world and people around us. We measure physics and chemistry. As young toddling toddlers we experiment with gravity and the “first steps”. Continue reading “Good Mistakes vs. Bad Mistakes: Exploding Fallacies”
Are You as Objective as You Believe?
Everyone wants to believe that they are or at least have the ability to be objective and rational. We like to believe we can tap into that, even if we know on some level we do not operate from that space regularly. There is often a gap between what we want our lives to look like and feel like, and what they actually look like and feel like. Why is this? Why and where does decision making go awry? And how does it happen so damn often without our notice? Continue reading “Understand Your Cognitive Biases and Make Better Decisions”
The first time I posted about the Lefkoe Method was in July of 2012. You can read that review here. (You can learn more about the method itself here. And how it is endorsed by many greats and even backed by science. Of course, I didn’t know any of that at that time of this writing.)
I was introduced to the Lefkoe Method when my cousin sent me this link, where I “eliminated 3 limiting beliefs.” (What does that even mean?!) Immediately, I began seeing changes in my life that were mainly in my inner world and how I perceived things – they were subtle.
I noticed a difference in how I reacted to the world around me. People, circumstances, and situations that would usually get me thinking certain negative thoughts about myself were flagged in my mind and questioned.
The “real change”, or the external, you-can-measure-it-and-point-to-it change, began shortly after that post was written. I hadn’t connected the dots until now. Continue reading “The Lefkoe Method Review – Two Years Later”
By now I think we’ve all heard about the idea that it takes the body 20 minutes to know if it’s full. Well, I have recently learned, by this awesome food psychology guy Marc David, that it isn’t simply about knowing that the body is full, but something far greater than that.
This twenty minute time frame is not just about knowing that we are full, Continue reading “What Eating Too Fast Leads To (hint: overeating is not the only thing)”
Sleep is super important.
Most people (funnily enough, those who are not chronically sleep deprived) will feel a marked difference when losing as little as an hour of sleep a night. The differences usually include being easily stressed out, angered or emotional, losing cognitive function (slower to react, reaching for words, forgetting things, etc), and just being less happy. Also, sleeping time is essential time for the body to repair, heal, clean house. When we disturb that process, we are putting ourselves in harms way by weakening our immune response and not allowing the intelligence of this amazing body to do its thang. Continue reading “Employ These Strategies and Sleep Better Tonight. (or I’ll give you a nickel)”