One of our main objectives is to avoid pain and suffering and move towards pleasure or at least non-suffering. Additionally, a lot of the suffering we experience is brought on by ourselves, and more specifically, by our thoughts about things. Furthermore, our thoughts about things come from the explicit meaning we give to any situation and circumstance, person, place or thing in our lives and in our worlds. Continue reading “1 Tiny Fact That Can Change Your Perceptions Instantly”
Okay, so we all have been around for the past decade and half when positive psychology has reared its smiling face and has taught us there is more to study in the realm than disorder and dysfunction. It is a field in its infancy so there is a lot of room to grow and understand and there is tons of value there. There are also a lot of unknowns and misunderstandings.
Continue reading “Three Surefire Ways to Crush Negative Thinking and Be Happier Immediately”
The heat can be unbearable. Especially if it’s combined with dry and windy conditions. It can make people moody, sick, allergy ridden, and overall lethargic. Since I am especially heat sensitive I decided to pass along some nice tips I’ve learned along the way. Of course I will start with the obvious basics because sometimes they are easy to forget.
#1. Drink plenty of water, but make sure to drink it throughout your day. You don’t want to drink up all at once and feel bloated. Feeling bloated and hot are a bad combination. Also, you can drink other things, but stay away from too much caffeine or alcoholic beverages. I know an iced latte or ice cold beer may sound nice on a hot day, but it’ll only make it worse.
#2. Cover them windows. If you don’t have central AC or even if you do, cover up windows that receive direct sunlight with heavy curtains, or you can improvise with a comforter. Yes, it can be that serious. It was so hot in the condo where I live yesterday that I felt the heat emanating from the walls.
The average American spends 25.4 minutes per way driving to and from work, that’s about 190 hours per year, accounting for vacation and holiday time. In areas like Southern California, that number goes up quite a bit. It can be seen as wasted time, the cost of working where you want to work and living where you want to live, or a scourge on your existence but I believe it can be so much more. This time is given to you as a little gift from the traffic Gods and you can do amazing things with it.
The Upside of Bias
Cognitive biases are a dime a dozen. Why are our thought processes so heavily laden with biases? Well, for one thing, biases actually help us or have helped us in some form or another, otherwise, we would not have them as a part of our evolutionary repertoire. Continue reading “Cognitive Bias of the Week – 1 Way the Anchoring Effect Could Be Costing You”
The Essence of Mind Games
For the longest time I found myself trying to guess at what was written between the lines. I wanted to find out what people really meant or felt or wanted. I didn’t take what people said at face value. Communication was ambiguous and murky. Continue reading “Mind Games 101”
Doom and gloom is the tone of the day. We are on the brink of extinction, and have a better idea of the atrocities that happen every day – but is this the reality? Are we worse than we ever have been before? More violent, more deceitful, more uncaring? Continue reading “Does Humanity Really Suck?”
Failure is our friend. The more we get used to and embrace this idea, the greater the heights we can reach and potentiality we can fulfill. Continue reading “Getting High Off of Faliure”
A lot of unhappiness and suffering stems from our misperception of the people and world around us. These perceptions tell us the story or stories that can limit us and cause flawed decision making or set us free. A lot of the misperceptions come from false beliefs about ourselves and how we relate to the world. Continue reading “Confirmation Bias – Your Achilles’ Heel?”
We’ve talked about limiting beliefs a couple of times (and how to eliminate a limiting or negative belief in under 20 minutes) on this blog, but we skipped over the nitty-gritty and talked about my experience with a belief elimination method, how I eliminated limiting beliefs and how it affected my life experience and results. (Here is the original post, and here is the two-year follow-up.)
We haven’t discussed what a limiting belief is and how it manifests in your day-to-day life, showing up in the places that you are unhappiest. This can include your money situation, work situation, health situation, relationship situation and the relationship with yourself. It shows up in different places for different people based on their particular beliefs. It usually is much stronger is some areas.
What is a Belief?
A belief is something we hold to be true. Inherently, belief is the absence of doubt. We hold beliefs about everything and our beliefs inform our view of the world and our relationship to other people. Beliefs are self-perpetuating.